separate the past from present

The first step though is to separate the past from the present.
Ways of separating the past from the present include:
• Ask yourself where your feelings are coming from, and notice what you become aware of, including later on in the day.
• Notice whether your feelings are familiar to you - whether you've felt this way before - and if so remind yourself that some of your feelings are probably coming from the past.
• Spend time being aware of the past origins of your feelings if you know, and if that's not too overwhelming for you.
• Let yourself know that even if you don't know where all of your feelings are coming from, it's likely that some of how you are feeling is from the past.