Test Your Life :)

Jawaban dari dalam hati untuk pertanyaan-pertanyaan hidup :
Tak mungkir, tak ingkar, jarang sekali terdengar kata-kata itu : I Love You, Maafkan, Terima Kasih. Dan diri ini seolah terperangkap dalam jaring-jaring pencari kesejatian diri dan kejujuran hati. Belum! Belum cukup! Belum sama sekali! Semuanya masih penuh dengan kepalsuan, hipokrasi yang melelahkan. Padahal pernah kubertekad, untuk menentang keras hipokrasi kehidupan dan membela kejujuran hidup. Namun, sendat-sendat masih terasa. Banyak orang berkata, he`s too good to be true, mana mungkin ada orang sesempurna dia? Tak pernah marah, tak pernah benci, tak pernah dendam, ataupun tak pernah berbohong! Tidak mungkin! Menjadi manusia adalah merasakan, mengalami, melakukan, mengenali, mempelajari segala hal yang positif dan negatif dalam hidup ini. Seorang yang baik, baru bisa menyadari kalau dia baik, setelah dia pernah mengalami hal yang buruk. Seorang yang buruk, pun bisa menemukan dirinya buruk, sebelum akhirnya dia belajar hal yang baik. Huamm….teori membosankan! Hidup sederhana sajalah! Tak perlu bermain-main dengan filosofi hidup ataupun kiasan-kiasan indah yang mengandung unsur hipokrasi juga di dalamnya. Gak mungkin kalau tidak. Pernah kutemui seorang sempurna tiada cela, tapi kesempurnaannya itu justru awal dari kekurangannya juga.

While reviewing it, close your eyes and recreate the feelings of satisfaction and joy you experienced when you first attained each success???
Jawab : Selesai presentasi skripsi (2004), selesai presentasi MKT (Metode Konstruksi Skripsi), selesai interview BDP Trans TV, setelah berhasil bertemu langsung dengan Delon, Aming, Tora, setelah tersenyum lega karena pertunjukkan drama selesai dan lancar....

Self-esteem flourishes when you are engaged in work and activities that you enjoy and make you feel valuable?
Jawab : activity liputan, press conference, seminar dan training di hotel bintang lima, menulis, ketemu artis, melihat proses syuting, karaoke, melewati jalan tol di malam hari, kemping, naik gunung, ngerjain orang, api unggun bareng sambil barbeque.

Be generous with yourself and write down at least 20 positive qualities!
Jawab : ……..

Accepting that you will sometimes fail is key to maintaining a high self-confidence.

To maintain a maximized level of self-confidence, you want all of your personal qualities to be exercised as often as possible.

We all need to boost our self-confidence in different ways and for different reasons. The trick is to find out where you need to improve and then go out and do just that.

It’s a rock that whenever you hold it you should think about all the things you have in your life that you’re grateful about. So you wake up in the morning and you take the Gratitude Rock and you think about all the things you’re happy having in your life and you put it into your pocket. And in the evening you take the rock from your pocket and you think one more time about all the things you’re grateful about.

One common problem is to focus your thoughts on what you don´t want rather than what you want. If you do that then it will be hard to get what you want in life. If you want to improve your finances then focus on having a great financial situation rather than your lack of money and your debts. If you want a new relationship then focus on meeting a lot of new people and forming great relationships rather than focusing on your loneliness and your lack. If you don´t then you´ll miss many opportunities that you mind just blocks out since it´s focused on your lack. But if you do then opportunities will suddenly start to pop out of all that stimuli that is your world. Your mind can mostly just see what you focus it on. So focus on what you want in life.

“Seeing a smile creates what is termed as a ‘halo’ effect, helping us to remember other happy events more vividly, feel more optimistic, more positive and more motivated.” a smile gives the same level of stimulation as eating 2,000 chocolate bars. A healthy smile can improve your confidence, help you make friends and help you to succeed in your career … ““A man without a smiling face must not open a shop.” Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it.

“Bad moods become bad days, which become bad weeks, which become bad months and years. Before you know it, you’re living an unhappy life and you probably think this is ‘normal’. It’s a shame, because life can and should be wonderful. You can transcend the circumstances that are pulling you down … you need only to learn how.” - Brenda Anderson

Find a project to focus on. The point is to find something where you get tangible results. In turn, you will feel gratified, and feeling gratified is a great way to lift a bad mood.When you witness other people’s problems, your problems might seem miniscule in comparison, therefore easier to solve.Emotional vampires include people who put you down, criticize or mock you, or sabotage your dreams and aspirations. Happy and optimistic people hang around with personal cheerleaders. Unhappy people surround themselves with emotional vampires. that happy people never or rarely use the word ‘try’ or ‘but.’

Try writing about one of your favorite moments of achievement, recalling as many details as possible. Be vivid not only about how good it felt to reach a goal, but note the sounds, sights, even the smells of that moment!

You can also write about things that don’t make you feel successful at all. If there’s an issue in your life that you’re upset about or is bothering you, try writing about it. Get yourself to write down any positive aspects about it: if you can discover something you’ve learned in the struggle, you’ll feel more upbeat and hopeful about finding a solution to your problem.

Benjamin Franklin also said: “If you would not be forgotten as soon as you are dead, either write something worth reading or do things worth writing.”

Steve Jobs said: “The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.” “Do what you love.” Seek out an occupation that gives you a sense of meaning, direction and satisfaction in life. Having a sense of purpose and striving towards goals gives life meaning, direction and satisfaction. It not only contributes to health and longevity, but also makes you feel better in difficult times. Do you jump out of bed on Monday mornings and look forward to the work week? If the answer is ‘no’ keep looking, you’ll know when you find it.

So use Socrates’ principles in your life, your work, your learning, and your relationships. It’s not about Socrates, it’s really about you, and how you can bring more truth, beauty and goodness into your life everyday.

And you don’t need permission to decide your own purpose. No boss, teacher, parent, priest or other authority can decide this for you. Just find that unique purpose.

Steve Jobs said: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Give yourself a chance to nurture your creative qualities in a fear-free and pressure-free climate. Live a life that YOU choose and be your own boss.

So the more you learn, the more you become aware of what you have yet to learn.

Spend 30 minutes cleaning up and organizing your home, office or your computer every day.

They are committed to their success, have passion for what they do, have clear goals and are uniformly more comfortable taking risks than most.

“To make mistakes is human”. How you respond to your error determines just how smart you are.

“Spend some time alone every day.”
Give yourself one hour on certain days to do an activity you truly enjoy. Work on a hobby, do some exercise, go for a walk, or read a book. It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you enjoy it.

Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer. So, before you open your mouth, just turn over your thought and try to inject it with a trace of reason, and if it doesn’t work, just shut up!

A wise person once said to me that if I wanted to learn something, I should teach it. Stephen Covey, one of my favorite gurus, also suggests that the way to internalize an idea, habit or principle is to share it with someone else. Advice is usually overrated. Before you learn what others know, you need to learn what you know.

“Be careful what you wish for - you may get it”? You may call it luck, maybe fate or something, but yes, sometimes when you don’t get what you want you are lucky because it turned out that you got something better anyways.

“A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.” When life’s storms set you adrift in an ocean of worries, you know you can always find an anchor in those closest to you, in your family. You feel rejuvenated when you’ve made a connection with someone who knows you well.

Remember the words of Chief Seattle, “This we know: All things are connected like the blood which unites one family. All things are connected. Whatever befalls the earth befalls the sons of the earth. Man did not weave the web of life. He is merely a strand on it. Whatever he does to the web he does to himself.”

Is your life driven by reacting to circumstances, by putting out today’s fire, or is it driven by what really matters to you? Do you have a vague sense that there could be more to life or that you could be more excited about what you do?

Values are the essence of who you are, and the building blocks of your personal foundation. They help to reorient you when you get lost. You use your values to make decisions about priorities in your daily work and home life, and your goals and life purpose are grounded in your values. So it’s very important to choose the values you belief in and that define your character.

You are not your values. You are the thinker of your thoughts, but you are not the thoughts themselves. Your values are your current compass, but they aren’t the real you. “What is truly important to me in life?” Living values is one of the most powerful tools available to you to help you be the person you want to be, to help you accomplish your goals and dreams, and to help you lead and influence others.

Living your life “in integrity” means that your words match your actions which match your beliefs. When you are living your life in harmony with your values, you naturally have more energy. Clarifying what really matters to you, knowing what you stand for, will set you free to live life to its fullest potential.

“As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler; solitude will not be solitude, poverty will not be poverty, nor weakness weakness.” - Henry David Thoreau

Nothing complicates your life more than forcing yourself to go to work every morning when your heart tells you that you should be doing something else. To live is to grow and change, and nowhere is that more evident these days than in the world of work. So find work that is fun and uses your natural gifts. Wise people spend their days on pursuits that engage the fullness of their natural strengths. In doing so, they always meet with success.

Most of us are too busy to laugh and too serious to smile. Study children. Learn from their natural wisdom. They will remind you that if you haven’t laughed today, you haven’t lived today.

Read some great books or listen to some good music. Jawab : Alkemis by Paulo Coelho, Mitch Albom : Tuesdays With Morries.

Let yourself be spontaneous, choosing what to do and how to do it based on your own wishes rather than someone else’s wishes. You’ll feel more in control, have more energy, and lift your spirits immediately.Ke USA, full time writer, hang out , ke Sentul di malam hari sambil barbequean, jalan-jalan sepuasnya, tertawa sepuasnya.

Get in the habit of going to bed early and you will transform your life. Biasanya Pk 00.45 atau 01.00 pagi, kurang dari itu, ga bisa bo.

Live a simpler way of life. Kurangi ngemil, belanja baju, sepatu, tas, shopping nggak jelas, nonton dvd, pilih bioskop murah meriah, naik kendaraan umum daripada kendaraan pribadi, laper mata dikendalikan.