Focus on being happy with yourself, and don't take on the responsibility of worrying about someone else's happiness. Make yourself happy first, and then share his or her happiness.
If you are unhappy in your relationship, get curious about how this situation is similar to others from your past, and how you might create a better relationship for yourself rather than try to change your partner.
We are attracted to the partner with whom we can learn the most, and sometimes the lesson is to let go of a relationship that no longer serves us. A truly healthy relationship will consist of both partners who are interested in learning and expanding a relationship so that it continues to improve. If you want a good, healthy relationship with a real man, make certain that your own mental state and intentions are healthy.
Having a healthy relationship means that you have your experience, and your partner has his or her experience, and you learn to love and share and learn from those experiences.
Pursue your goals, explore your passions, have an interesting life, do things that take you outside your boundaries. Pursuing those passions is what we call "having a life" - an essential when you want a man to respect you. Because by making your dreams and passions a priority, you show a man that you believe your dreams matter. And because of that, he will respect you and believe your dreams matter, perhaps trying to help you achieve them.
Learn to relax, and have fun
Remember that most men, especially the good ones, are looking for someone with whom they can be comfortable, and not someone who is always intense.
If you want him to do something, you should be equally willing to do it yourself. You want him to ask you out or take you out or do whatever else for you? You should be equally willing, and don't wait for or expect him to do it first. Good men respect a woman who applies the same rules to herself that she would apply to a man.
Remember - interesting men look for interesting women. Make sure your life is about more than just him.
Love yourself. If you're not happy with who you are then don't expect others will be. Analyze yourself and change what you don't like.
Relaxing your nerves and calming your emotions.
Women who are glad to be alive and are enjoying every minute of it may be irrepressibly attractive to men.
I really love spending time with you. I really feel happy around you. But I just want to double check and see if we're on the same page. While I know it is too soon for us to worry about it, I do want to get married in the future and want to make sure I'm dating someone who has the same values as me. As we get to know each other better and better, are you beginning to see me as someone you could possibly see that happening with?
It's certainly important to take care of yourself physically. It is well-documented that men appreciate women who are beautiful, cute, and/or sexy.
Capitalize on your positive unique qualities, talents, or interests.
Sarah Ban Breathnach said, "If you wait for the best, you will very often get it." Expect good things to happen. Create a mission statement - and be specific - defining precisely what it is you want in a man. Revisit and revise this statement from time to time. Prepare yourself mentally to meet and marry the man of your dreams.
Smile, show off your love for him and yourself by showing how happy your relationship makes you!
trying new things on multiple fronts. Whether it's new food, a new sport, or a new travel destination, this will keep life exciting, and you interested in your own life. then you need to focus on you for a while and learn how to be whole without him. A man won't fill any void.
Yes, exercise will make you look better. But it will also make you healthier, more energetic, more vibrant, more mentally cued in, and happier! Plus you'll have the satisfaction of knowing you are doing a good thing for yourself. When a man comes across a woman with a fulfilled, satisfied life, who stands by what she does and shows she puts herself first so that she has enough energy to love and respect those around her, shows that she values herself and doesn't need a man to fulfill her (only having a man in her life because she loves HIM specifically, not because she NEEDS any man), a man will be very, very hesitant to do anything that would let her leave. So commit to pursuing your passions and dreams. You are worth it. And if you want a truly wonderful man, you owe it to him to discover how to energize and revitalize yourself, so instead of draining him, you are a constant source of energy in the relationship. For yourself, and for your relationship, even if you are extremely poor and must find very cheap sources of passion and excitement, make a commitment today to take the next 60 days and focus, each day, on fulfilling each of the steps above, from pursuing your passions to taking time for yourself.
You realize that, the more satisfaction you're getting out of your life, the more consistently you exercise, the more energy you have to do well at work, at home, and in relationships. You're learning to take time for yourself and not feel guilty. You're beginning to see a difference in your life - you're more confident, you see people respecting you more, and perhaps you're even building a larger social network. Next, think about what you wish a man in your life were doing for you - how he was appreciating you. What do you wish a man would do? Buy you flowers? Bring you chocolate? Perhaps cuddle up with a good movie? Enjoy chocolate-covered strawberries and champagne by candlelight? Take you out to a nice restaurant every month or so? Buy you a day at the spa? Make a nice list of how you wish you were treated and appreciated. A complete list!
He doesn't want a woman who will take any man and then seek to change him; he is looking for a woman who doesn't need a man, but likes him in particular. So men are almost more serious about the dating process than women, and slower to commit because they are very selective. Women who cause this change are typically very mature (especially emotionally), holding a man to a higher standard that he admires; but still fun, youthful, and engaging; "lady-like" as that man defines a lady; but still enthusiastic and fun in bed; interesting, exciting, spontaneous; but stable enough that he sense loyalty in her. when a man meets a mature, "lady-like" (as he defines it), fun, interesting, fulfilled woman who is not desperate, he is more likely to see her interest as genuine, and may make himself ready for marriage sooner so that he won't lose her.
fulfilling personal life.
Your smile is the key, however - men love to make women they love smile. He should initiate from there.
For that reason, it can be beneficial to allow yourself to just sit back and date, having no expectations of a relationship or sex until you feel that you really know the personality of the person you are dating. This can help you to leave a relationship you don't think will turn out well without being too emotionally involved to have a clear head about it.
we've: created a very fulfilling life; learned to recharge our batteries and take care of ourselves so we have energy to put into our relationships; learned how men look at dating and marriage; looked at attracting men and the importance of sticking with what you're comfortable with, instead of trying to impress him;
Men live to make their women happy. That is one of the main reasons why they don't respond well to criticism - they feel inadequate. Men want to be their wife's hero. Allowing them to respond to your feelings, find a solution themselves (instead of having one suggested), and working to make their wives happy (rewarded by her happiness and smiling face) makes him a modern-day hero.
"Have I sacrificed my dreams lately? When was the last time I pursued my hobbies or saw my friends?" Don't make excuses for lack of time - take action.
research has shown that if you want to be a successful parent, you'll need to reward your kid's chores (yes, the ones they're supposed to do without encouragement!) with the same enthusiasm. And you should be enthusiastic.
By managing your own energy, time, and emotion, you will find the ability to be the stronger emotional force in the relationship leading to a lasting love and respect for the both of you. You also need to learn to accept yourself before you can accept another. If you cannot love your self, how are you to love another? You must love yourself before you can love another.
Schedule time for yourself, away from him, during peak hours (Friday and Saturday evenings, or whenever your time is most cherished). This will give your man a chance to kick back with the boys and give you an opportunity to remain your own person.
Research shows that people who meditate have a somewhat detached approach to the problems of this life, and are calmer, happier and more contented than usual. Turning to that higher power, closing your eyes and thinking of artistic images, doing deep breathing, etc. Can give you a sense of peace.
If you can't be happy from within, and be satisfied with what you have or who you are, then you will never be truly happy with anyone else.
Do not whine about what you don't have. Enjoy what you have and desire, work towards what you want to have.
Remember that love is not a feeling, it is a choice! Make the choice to love yourself. After all, who deserves it more? The more loving you are to yourself, the more loving you will be able to be to everyone around you. Family and friends will especially benefit from this. Make a choice to come from a place of love for yourself and for everyone who is important in your life.
Make a list of your personal strengths in relation to your goal. For instance, if you have a healthy eating goal you might want to consider strengths such as your level of commitment to eating healthily, or the fact that you enjoy cooking and experimenting with new recipes or even that you are an excellent cook. The list of personal strengths you can draw up is endless.
Be passionate. Striving towards a goal without passion is like a fire which slowly runs out of fuel to burn. Get excited, this will mean that you will love what you are doing. Methodically check your behaviors against impassioned dreams developed as a child. Always share the child within amongst your potential peers. This empowers the Law of Attraction that shapes the dreams of the child into the creative force of the adult.
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